Comments on: Alcohol-Free Authenticity — Improve Your Success With Women When Sober

By: Steven

Steven — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 17:33:55 +0000

Great post. Answering the question “why are you not drinking” has always felt awkward. Don’t want to come across judgmental, or as a Alcoholic. It’s seems to be a strange thin line for just making a choice to enjoy life and people in a naturally state. But that even sounds judgmental. Anybody have any more good responses to the question?

By: Sasha

Sasha — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 17:41:47 +0000

no its ok, your dont need to buy me a drink to keep me here talking to you

Ha ha, this is a great answer. I usually just reply that “I’m taking care of my friends here so that they don’t do something crazy”…

And thanks for your comments guys!

By: DaveW

DaveW — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 21:39:13 +0000

I agree with everything here, the post and the comments. These days I dont drink much. One thing you may get if you dont have a drink in your hand is the woman you’re talking to asking you “why are you not drinking?” as its expected for you to be drinking. The way you answer this can help or hinder your game. If you explain that you dont drink any more and get all up on your high horse about it, it can make her feel bad that she is drinking, or it can make you look like a recovering alcoholic. nither of these are good. If I get asked why i’m not drinking I usually reply with something like “no its ok, your dont need to buy me a drink to keep me here talking to you. flip the script. make it seem like she is trying to buy you a drink.

By: Jim Dalton

Jim Dalton — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:12:11 +0000

Great post. Ever since I started my journey in this dating world and coaching my drinking has gone down a lot. Not that I drank much before, but if I have three beers now out and about, that is a big night for me. I prefer now sipping on a scotch when the night is over recapping with my wingman on things or planning the dates. Alcohol completely hinders thinking on the fly. Great in depth post.

By: Claudia

Claudia — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 14:44:12 +0000

This si an excellent post - I for one can’t stand drunk men. And I’m very quick to spot whether a man is enjoying a drink or 2 or if he actually indulges in too much alcohol full stop.

Alcohol can also be a problem for women. They too feel less inhibited after a couple of drinks. Every body has seen the woman that gets the desire to remove her clothes or part of them any way when she’s drunk. Not a good idea.

And by the way one of my dear deceased friends who was a very masculine jazz musician and owner of a night club, who was very fond of drinking said to me I never went to bed with an ugly woman but I sure woke up with a few!